A Holiday to Never Forget

About 20 years ago, we had one of our most memorable holidays with our kids.  As we headed to the family cottage, we decide to stop for one night at a hotel that had a water park.  Our girls would be able to swim and play for hours. Our son was just six months old, and we were loaded down with every piece of baby paraphernalia ever invented (stroller, playpen, etc). I decided that we only needed one overnight bag to take into the hotel. That way I wouldn’t have to unpack the whole van. It was a great idea and worked well until the next morning when I went out to the van. It wasn’t where I had parked it. I walked around the hotel parking lot three times before being willing to entertain the idea that it had been stolen. And it had been stolen. Not only the van but everything in it. Everything we needed for a three-week holiday, toys, a camera and video camera, my briefcase, favorite blankets and stuffed animals. This was not the best way to start a holiday. The insurance company was helpful and after the police report, I was able to rent a new van. In the afternoon we loaded up the van with the four kids, one overnight bag with wet bathing suits and headed to my parents. After a few days, the insurance company authorized us to begin replacing what had been stolen.  It turned out to be a summer of shopping for new clothes, baby supplies and a video camera. The kids loved it; it was like Christmas every other day. The empty van was found a couple of weeks later. This all happened on the same vacation when three of the four kids got chicken pox and I sliced open a finger requiring a hospital visit and several stitches. We were glad when we finally got back home. The kids, of course, remember things differently. They loved that summer. They got to travel in a cool new van. They got tons of new clothes and toys. They were just glad to be with us. For Rhonda and me, as stressful as it was, we made a key decision early on. Standing in the hotel room with the sudden realization that the van and all our stuff was gone a verse came to my mind: “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matthew 6:19-21 We told ourselves that it was “only stuff’. Our four children (our treasures) were safe and sound and none of us were in danger. The really important things in life were right in the room with us; the rest (the stuff) was just wood, hay and stubble meant for the fire. That moment of clarity, of finding perspective, has stayed with us. Our life has not been about the abundance of things we can accumulate or hold on to. We have moved internationally a couple of times and have left many things behind. We know that it can all be gone quickly. We know that together we were raising four children for eternity. The focus had to be on them and not all the stuff we thought we needed for living. Enjoy these quieter and longer days of summer. I hope you make some wonderful memories, but don’t forget to treasure the things that are truly important.

Watch your attitude

Two psychiatrists worked in the same building. Each morning they rode the same elevator, one getting off on the 5th floor and the other getting off at the 9th. Every morning just as the first psychiatrist was about to get off the elevator, he would turn and spit in the face of the second psychiatrist. The second man would then pull out a handkerchief and wipe off his face as if nothing was wrong. It was in the days when there was an elevator operator, and the young man daily watched this episode. Finally, one day he could stand it no longer. After the first psychiatrist got off, he turned to the second and said, “Why does he do that?” “I don’t know,” said the second, “that’s his problem, not mine.” So often what happens to you is not nearly as important as how you react to it. What happens in you. You and I can choose our attitude when responding to events that take place in our life. What makes the difference between someone who has everything against them and yet conquers it to have a great life, and someone raised with every material blessing yet does nothing and is miserable? Attitude. The single most significant decision you can make on a day-to-day basis is your choice of attitude. Some people complain that their circumstances or the people around them have given them a bad attitude. No one gives you a poor attitude, you choose it. You are responsible for your attitudes. How you think determines how you respond to others. Too many people believe that happiness and the good life depend on the right conditions. When things are going great, they are happy. When things aren’t going great, they are miserable. Viktor Frankl was a prisoner of war in WW2 and was treated poorly. He came to an amazing realization as he sat in the Nazi prison camp and considered all he had lost: “The one thing you cannot take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.” Another prisoner, the Apostle Paul, wrote this, “I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:12,13). Paul was not going to allow circumstances to dictate his attitude. He also recognized his need for help. Looking to Christ he found the strength to get through the challenges he faced. He knew that his real contentment lay in knowing Christ and his relationship with him. So, if you are feeling a little rough today, you can ask Jesus for his help in adjusting your attitude. You don’t have to keep that lousy disposition; you can be set free. Just look for help in the right place.

Three sure things to wreck your faith

Large companies and small businesses alike, spend significant amounts of money to protect their assets. Not only do companies need physical security but increasing money is spent on digital security. When you have something valuable, you need to protect it from danger. Our faith, as Christians, is precious and to be treasured. We are encouraged throughout scripture to be on our guard and to protect our spiritual life from danger and destruction, from thieves who will try to steal from us. Over the years I have noticed three problems that can pose danger to our faith and trust in God. 1. Looking at your problems instead of Jesus.We can be consumed by the problems and challenges of everyday life. A ‘to-do’ list can be overwhelming enough but when we add in those extra ‘issues’ we become paralyzed. When we focus on what is wrong, or what our problems are, we lose perspective. Problems become bigger than they really are. We have to keep looking to Jesus and asking him to give us perspective over all matters in life. “Let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” Hebrews 12:1-2 2. Listening to lies rather than believing the truth.If you repeat something often enough people will start to believe it. We have an enemy of our soul who is called the ‘Father of lies.’ He is an expert at getting you to believe lies about yourself or about the gospel. When you listen to him, you become discouraged about your own status and fearful of other people – thinking that they are only out to hurt you. Our enemy comes along and lies to us about how much God loves us, who we are in Christ and what Jesus can do to help us today. We need to get God’s truth into our hearts to drown out the lies. “You are truly my disciples if you remain faithful to my teachings. And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:21,22 3. Living without rest.We live in a very ‘driven’ society. We are on the go all the time. Many of us thrive on that kind of living – go, go, go. But when we are always on the go, we have no margin in our lives and no space for anything to happen out of the ordinary. That usually means we aren’t getting enough rest or spending enough time with our loved ones. Above all, it is an indicator that we are not feeding and nurturing our spiritual life. Without rest, really stopping and just sitting in the presence of God, we are in danger of becoming a wreck. We run the risk of becoming disoriented and burned out. We must learn to build margin into every area of life, especially to feed our souls. “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:28,29 Take a moment and make sure your faith is safe and secure! See you Sunday,Pastor David 

Success or Failure

The most important rite of passage for someone growing up in a small rural community in Canada was to get a driver’s license. As a teenager, it was an essential need for having a social life. The day I turned sixteen I was able to get a beginners’ permit. A week later I started a driver’s education course and a couple of months later went for the driver’s test. I was so excited because I would finally get to drive by myself and then I would have a whole new level of freedom. The big day arrived. I was nervous but ready. Completing all the necessary checks, I put on my seat belt, signaled and pulled into traffic. Everything went perfectly for the first ten minutes of the test and then disaster hit. I drove right through a stop sign. Never even saw it. That’s an automatic failure. And just like that, my life was over. They could go ahead and write my obituary. I was crushed and it was too painful and embarrassing to tell my friends. For several days I was depressed and discouraged. I just knew my entire life would be one big disaster and this failure would haunt me forever. I was convinced I would never get into university, find a job, or get married, all because I didn’t have a driver’s license. But I was wrong. A few weeks later I took the test again and passed. It’s hard to believe that I’ve been driving for over 40 years. What was the big deal? It all seems silly now, but it was very real at the time. Our failures can often seem permanent and life-defining. The world tells us that ‘Failure is not an option.’ But failure is a part of the reality of life and something we all must come to grips with. Winning and losing, victory and defeat, success and failure – all these concepts are far less clear than we usually imagine. What looks like success today may be setting us up for failure tomorrow. What looks like a failure today may be what turns us around and leads to success tomorrow. Our perceived failures are seldom as final as we make them out to be. We can’t avoid failure and we can’t afford to shut down when it happens. We have to learn from it in order to keep going and growing. Think about all the Bible stories we know about individuals who really messed up. Didn’t God confirm his love and continue to work with them? Those stories are included in Scripture for our benefit. Through those stories, we learn that God is always working with us and for us. The Apostle Paul said: “But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” (Philippines 3:13-14) Failure is a reality in this life, but it doesn’t define who we are, and it certainly doesn’t change the way God thinks about us. In the end, our ‘success’ in life will be defined in terms of our walk with God. Let’s put the negative behind us and press on to what is important. 

Who will pay the bills when I’m 114?

Margret was 93 and living in a nursing home for seniors. She was worried about how much money she had and whether she could continue to live in the home. Her daughter, who had just turned 70, wanted to reassure her mother that everything would be fine. She sat down with her mother and the accountant, and they went over her financial records. The advisor said that even with inflation she would have enough money to live in the home until she turned 114 years old. When presented with the facts, her first question was, “And then what will I do for money?” Is Margret and optimist or a pessimist? On the one hand, she plans to live for a long time. On the other, she worries about something that is unlikely to happen. Do we ever reach a point in life when we truly trust God with our future? Our human need is to control everything. Yet there is very little we can exercise control over. The truth is, we don’t know what tomorrow holds. We don’t know what joys and sorrows lie ahead. We do need to plan and be wise. We should be thinking about our future. It’s just that there are no guarantees. God alone holds the future. The words of Jesus bring us comfort: “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?  Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?… So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.  Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:25-27, 31-34) If you are worried about how you will pay the bills when you are at 114 years old – stop. Your heavenly Father knows your needs. Whether it’s our health, relationships, provision or just the future in general, we can count on him.

Love Your Neighbor

Penny Smith didn’t care much for the low-income neighborhood that bordered on the back of her business property. As far as she and her husband were concerned the residents were a nuisance. There was always trash and beer bottles littering the back of her bookkeeping firm. So, a few years ago they put up a wooden fence to keep the ‘undesirable elements’ out. On the night of 10 December 2021, just weeks before Christmas, a tornado with wind speeds of up to 190 mph tore through her town of Mayfield, Kentucky. Hundreds of homes and businesses were destroyed and 22 people died. Penny and Rob, who live in the next town over, were spared but the following morning went to check out their business. Amazingly, there was only minor damage to their building, but the neighbors were not so lucky. The storm had taken down the wooden fence and all Penny could see was the devastation that her neighbors had suffered. Rob thought it was like an atomic bomb went off. Penny said that when the fence fell down, other barriers did as well. Her eyes were opened. A lifelong Christian and church goer she had been content to ignore the struggles of that community. Now she saw these people as her neighbors, and they needed help, immediately. It was difficult to get rescue crews into the vicinity, so Penny and Rob set up an area on their property to serve coffee and water. Then people started dropping off food and other necessities. They began to serve a hot breakfast each morning for the residents, many who were now homeless. Over the last few weeks, they have continued to provide hot food and clothing. It’s become a hub for other services into the devasted area. “Literally, the walls came down, and we started talking to these neighbors,” Rob said. Penny’s business is on hold at the moment while she continues to serve the people around her. Soon she’ll need to return to work but her perspective on her calling and her neighbors has forever been changed. Jesus asked them, ““Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers (or a tornado)?”  The expert in the law replied, “The one who had mercy on him.” Jesus told him, “Go and do likewise.” (Luke 10:36-37)

The Challenge of Prayer

A 2020 study from Premier Christian News in the UK found that Christians are less likely to pray than those from other faiths. Just 38 percent of Christians polled said that they regularly prayed. Among other faiths, 52 percent reported that they prayed on a regular basis. I was surprised to see the low level of engagement for something considered so central to our practices. Ask any random group of Christians about their spiritual life and the majority will tell you that prayer is a challenge. Many apparently aren’t spending any time in prayer. Others often struggle with knowing how to pray. We know we should, but we are often like the disciples who asked Jesus, “teach us to pray.”   What causes our hesitation? Are we are concerned about doing it properly? Do we think that prayer is a waste of time? Is it something we only do when we are in trouble? Part of our Western problem is that we believe prayer is transactional. If we spend long enough in prayer or say the right words, then God will give us what we want. Our life will be fulfilled. When this is our only understanding of prayer, we are bound to be disappointed. Benediction Monk, Luigi Gioig offers three words of advice on prayer: Keep it simple Keep it honest Keep it going Prayer doesn’t need to be complicated. God can handle direct talk. For many, honesty in prayer can be difficult. We have to check our motivation. Are we wanting to get something from God or are we really wanting to spend time with God? As the Psalmist prayed: “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Thy sight, O Lord, my Strength and my Redeemer.” (Psalm 19:14) If prayer is one of those areas that is a struggle, let me recommend the book, How to pray: a simple guide for normal people by Pete Greig.  Greig has been teaching on prayer and leading prayer meetings for over twenty years. I find his approach to be refreshing and then I find myself wanting to spend time in prayer. This doesn’t have to be a complicated or guilt inducing part of our faith. Yet, prayer needs to be a foundation part of our spiritual disciples. From time to time we can all use some encouragement to keep on going in prayer.  

Reading for faith

Education is always a hot topic. Take the debate over whether children in 2021 need to learn cursive writing. For many people, this is an essential part of learning and expressing yourself. But in the 21st century, there are other ways to write things down. Kids today learn to type with a keyboard on a tablet or phone before they know the whole alphabet.  My personal inclination is that cursive writing may be extinct by the end of the century. Does it matter? My bigger concern is that reading is on the decline. Studies show that the average daily reading time for pleasure is decreasing. I usually have several books on the go and am amazed at how many adults tell me they don’t read. (Meaning, they don’t read for enjoyment or personal development.) I guess that you are a reader since you have made it this far in my article. Most people like to get information or news in the form of videos or podcasts. Entertainment or personal education is now more focused on screens than books. It’s just my opinion but I feel this leaves us impoverished and vulnerable to misinformation. So, all this month I am recommending books for Christian readers. These are books that I think help us develop as Christian disciples. They help us to think about bigger issues and give us tools for making application to our faith. The Psalmist wrote: “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” (Psalm 119:105) But that doesn’t mean it is always easy to understand what we are reading in scripture. How to Read the Bible for All Its Worth (by Gordon Fee & Douglas Stuart), is a basic primer for learning to read the Bible according to the different genres found within. Understanding how to read the Bible is important when wanting to know how to apply the Bible in our life. The book of Proverbs isn’t the same kind of reading as Revelation. Should we follow the laws of the Old Testament or is it okay to eat shellfish today? This book looks at how we can approach our Bible reading and gain more insight. You don’t have to be a theologian to understand it. I have some more recommendations coming for you this month. Maybe you could put one of the books on your Christmas list and start digging in a little deeper in the New Year.

Pig Kidneys & Wisdom

The University of Basel was founded in 1460 with approval from the Pope. It originally offered studies in four areas – arts, medicine, law, and theology. The emergence of universities, like most education in the Western world, came from the church. There was a growing thirst for knowledge. Knowledge of God and his creation. Areas of study in today’s humanities can be traced back to the early studies in theology. They were rooted in the study of God. Today, enrollment in the humanities like philosophy, history, language, arts, and culture – are on the decline. One large Christian university recently shut down its philosophy department. These subjects are considered to be rather useless when it comes to finding a job. Pragmatism in education is what seems to matter. Studying a topic for the purpose of understanding is not highly valued. This has consequences in the ‘real’ world. Last week, I read about a kidney from a genetically altered pig that was transplanted into a patient who was brain dead. The researchers found that the transplanted organ functioned normally. The use of pig parts could help with a shortage of human organs such as hearts, lungs, and livers. Researchers cautioned that there remain more questions and a long series of medical regulations before this happens. Don’t get me wrong. I think that’s an incredible discovery and I’m a big believer in scientific research that can help the improve quality of life for millions of people. This discovery and thousands of others happen every day. Just think, we are on the verge of self-driving cars and holiday packages in outer space. There seems to be no limit to the possibilities of what we can do. But, should we do it? Is life all about pragmatism now? If it works, do it? What about the moral and ethical implications of some of the discoveries we are making? How are we as Christians to view and understand these developments? How do we, as a society, hold these discussions before decisions are implemented?   We are sadly lacking in people who can help us understand the moral and ethical implications of our new world. It’s just not practical to get a degree in that stuff. Better to go into business and make money. Even Christians seem to be uninterested in the theological implications. It’s not just in the scientific world either. Current cultural discussions on race, immigration, religious freedom, sexuality and, sexual identity are hampered by people who have no depth of understanding about the history or moral issues being discussed. Instead, conversations are driven by fear and stereotypes that lead to division and resentment. The book of Proverbs makes a consistent and passionate plea for wisdom. Get wisdom, get understanding (4:4), Do not forsake wisdom, she will protect you (4:6), The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding (4:7). Knowledge we have. Information is not lacking. What do we do with this knowledge and all that information? That requires wisdom. My plea is that we should spend more time studying topics like theology, philosophy, and history. We need proper categories for our discussions and decisions. Young people should not be discouraged from getting a degree in these areas. A new generation of deep and godly thinkers is required to help us continue to engage with a world that is so fractured.

When God is Silent

There are troubling days when we search for answers and God seems to be silent. We pray and we call on him, but the heavens are still. Sometimes we get the impression from preachers and other Christians that there is a simple formula for getting answers to prayer. We have come to believe that we shouldn’t have to struggle for solutions or wait for our miracle. But life doesn’t always operate that way, and that can be unsettling. Peter Greig writes on this in his book God On Mute: Although seasons in our lives when God is silent may be important to our spiritual growth, they can also be deeply disturbing. As a result, we often attempt to solve the problem of God’s silence with simplistic explanations of complex situations, lopsided applications of Scripture and platitude of premature comfort. We are afraid to simply wait in the mess of problems unresolved until God Himself unmistakably intervenes, as He did on Easter Sunday. We are unwilling to admit, ‘I don’t have a clue what God is doing or why this is happening.’ We may even suspect that it would be un-Christlike to cry out publicly, ‘My God, my God. Why have you forsaken me?’ Why can’t we wait with the mess and pain of Holy Saturday unresolved? Why can’t we wait? Because that’s hard work and makes us very uncomfortable. It can be confusing. I don’t like it either. The reality is there will be times in our Christian walk when we have some Holy Saturdays. It is important to remember that God has not disappeared nor is he uninterested. He just isn’t working according to our schedule. If that’s where you are, may he give you grace to endure. Don’t give up. “For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope.” (Romans 15:4)